If you haven’t already, I highly suggest reading my previous
post before diving into this one (see below). Believe me, it will make way more sense. Don't worry, we will wait for you to catch up.
Ok, good story huh? I know, its the same story as most kids in sports at the same age. The next part of my story is the clutch part. So pay attention.
Me, my dad and my brother in Montana
Ok, good story huh? I know, its the same story as most kids in sports at the same age. The next part of my story is the clutch part. So pay attention.
At about the same time I choose swimming I was moved into
the afternoon training group on my swim team, which was a pre-senior group for
kids in that in-betweener awkward phase of any sport. We wanted to be good, had
the strokes and drills down, but lacked the ability or desire to train much. It
was just a group to allow our bodies to catch up to what we WANTED to do. I
HATED IT. I was always last in the slowest lane. I attempted to stay hidden and
out of people’s way, which was pretty easy because of how small I was. I had no
desire to ever finish a set. I would get out of the pool and go sit in the
women’s hot tub in the locker room. I was too slow to keep up, and getting
passed and knocked around by the bigger kids was discouraging. I wasn’t very
good friends with anyone my age – they were all so much faster and showed so
much more promise. But still, I kept doing really well at swim meets dropping
time and qualifying for regional meets. I am sure this perplexed my coach,
Shawn, as he saw this wimpy little girl who did her best to not be seen at the
pool still qualifying for meets with some of his hardest training younger kids.
Back when hats were cool.
This would be a great time to explain the dynamics of the
team at the time. As with most teams, it’s really hard to explain JUST what
it’s like for everyone, so please understand that this is only my personal
account. My coach, Shawn, had had a few good swimmers come through his team. He
had been there for about ten years, and had the privilege to coach some really
promising people. For one reason or another, they all seemed to implode on him.
Ever the egotistical coach, he wanted to have a stand out star and stuck behind
anyone who showed any promise. Unfortunately, his attitude to other less
promising swimmers was less than stellar. I was never one of his favorite
swimmers, most likely because of my sour attitude towards his coaching tactics
of playing favorites or his weird personality - the guy just LOOKED creepy to
me. Towards the end of my career I can think of plenty of run in’s that he and
I had, not to mention the issues my parents had with him. This was probably one
of the first people I ever comfortably talked back to, mainly because what was
he going to do? Dislike me more? Pick on me more? Simply stated, the guy was an
ass. But, my parents felt there was no other choice but to continue to swim on
the team and closely monitor both my brother and I.
I was always just getting by in practices. I would whine as
my mom drove me to the pool that I didn’t want to go to practice, but I didn’t
want to stop swimming either. I still laid awake in bed dreaming of the day I would stand on top of the podium (it didn't matter much which one it was at that point) and all the good things that would come my way. Really, I think I just hated the atmosphere but I
didn’t know how to articulate that at that age. Shawn was a truly terrible
coach, and that was one of the first times I really felt out of place and
disliked for no reason I could see. I just remember watching the Sydney
Olympics in 2000 and just getting this feeling. I felt so inspired just like
the millions of other kids watching TV. Suddenly, you want to do triple
sow-cows and high jump with the best of them. But I just remember feeling like,
I am wasting my time. I’m not even applying myself and it’s just such a waste.
I so badly wanted to be the next amazing story that the swimming world fell in
love with. So I made the atmosphere I once hated work for me. You doubt me, and
I will prove to you that you shouldn’t ten times over. I struck a deal with my
parents that I was to attend at least 3 practices a week to stay on the swim team. I gradually moved out
of the slowest lane and started finishing practices. I started sticking up for
myself at practices; if people weren’t going to give me respect, I would make
them. I was a little firecracker, too. I started liking hard sets, and really
started to see and feel improvements after a short amount of time.
A coach I actually liked working with, Todd.
And then, I started making meets. Sectionals, US Open,
Juniors, Nationals. I started making finals. I still didn’t stand out with my
times, but coaches would approach Shawn to ask what he was doing with me – my
stroke was beautiful and while certain aspects of my racing were awful (note:
start, turns, kick), I was still racing relatively fast ESPECIALLY for how
little training I was doing. While most kids my age were involved in a dryland
program a few days a week and in the pool for at least 10 hours a week, I was
lucky if I swam for 7 hours and hadn’t ever attended a single dry land
practice. I was also so tiny that I was shadowed by girls my age, but was
racing as fast if not faster than them. Had I done anymore training than what I was doing, I would have most certainly fallen apart. To be honest, I don’t know why I swam so well. I had
always had a good ‘feeling’ of the water and understood each aspect of making
contact with the water. And, I had a lot of fire. I wanted
everything. Short course swimming was still really hard for me – my walls were
something I always struggled with being so NOT powerful in the water. Even
though I was so small, long course was still better for me because it was all
swimming; no one had anywhere to hide.
I remember qualifying for Zones FINALLY the year before high
school started for me. I finally felt like I accomplished something; all of my
friends had made it and I finally got to go – and it was to Hawaii! What an
awesome meet it would be! And yet, this was the first time I knew I was better than what I was
doing. Everyone was still so much faster than me, I felt really left out, no one knew who I was, I swam on ‘F’ relays racing breaststroke and was
so forgettable they even forgot me during the annual award ceremony. Well, at least I got to go to Hawaii.
My freshman year at Districts.
My first year of high school swimming was uneventful.
Swimming in Eastern Washington is pretty sparse – a few teams here and there but all really far apart.
Dual meets were fun – I actually enjoyed being a part of this team and liked
the fact that even though I was a freshman I had taken a leadership role with
some of the relays. I could offer advice or calming words to nervous swimmers. My mom was my coach, which many found weird.
While I think it offered our mother-daughter relationship some challenges, she
allowed me to find some confidence in swimming that season. I actually found
happiness between swimming high school and club and practicing for both teams.
I was part of two winning relays at districts on top of winning my two
individual events, which I would go on to do the following two years as well.
My freshman year at state was a little overwhelming – it was all so
orchestrated and there were girls that I was competing against that normally
wouldn’t have been in my age group! Still, high school sports receive far more
recognition than club sports (especially for swimming) so the glamor of being
featured in the local newspaper was enough to make me blush, but it was a good
thing for both the sport and my career.
I think I made my first Juniors at the age of 14, the summer
after my freshman year in high school. It
was in Boca Raton, FL and I was so excited that I made finals. I started having
some great swims outside of taper, too. I don’t remember the order of the meets
I attended or any of the results I had, so let me just talk about the meets as
I remember them. Sectionals was always fun, and still a pretty big meet for me.
I only really excelled at a few events, so I wasn’t one of those swimmers that
swam EVERY event. I started making finals and getting a bit faster. I won
Juniors my second time there and later defended my title at Short Course
Juniors the following spring. I was a member of the Junior National team,
meaning I got to attend some international meets representing the USA. I made
some super close swimming friends while on this team that I could pen pal with
and see every so often at meets. Funny enough, a lot of the kids I swam with on
this team went on to be AMAZING athletes and swimmers in their own right; I
feel honored to have been a member of such a cool team and experience. I
also remember going to a meet the same summer in Eastern Washington where they had boys and girls race
together. I was in one of the last heats with a bunch of boys who weren’t from
the area and didn’t know me. One guy who was in the lane next to me came up to
let me know that this was heat number whatever as if to say I didn’t belong. I
informed him I was in fact in the correct heat after checking the heat sheet the timer had. I looked around, a bunch of
towering guys and me. Happy to say I creamed the guy next to me, so of course I
waited for him to finish to offer a sarcastic congratulations before exiting
the pool. I was starting to get fast!
One of my mom's proudest moments. We definitely didn't think this would be the last one.
Some of the French National Team!
Wow, we are such babies.
My Junior year of High School was the best swimming year of
my life, and also my worst. I really excelled. I mean, really. I was training
hard. I was dropping time; lots of time. People were taking notice and it was all very exciting. I was
working on things that could be improved upon. I won High School State with the
second fastest recorded time in state history off of a three day rest and being sick with the flu or cold
or something. I split a low 25 in the 50 back for the relay and was super impressed with my time. My splits rocked –
I was consistently able to negative split. I felt good. I trained hard through
the winter and had some pretty amazing sets (for me anyways). Somewhere at some
meet around that time, I swam a few times that ranked even me internationally
for my age group. I went to Nationals and while my coach didn’t really taper
me, we did rest me so I could try to make Olympic Trials. Olympic Trials would
be held that summer in Long Beach, CA for the Athens 2004 Olympics; I knew I
could make it. I knew making that time standard was within my reach. At
Nationals, I swam flat. So flat, I swam the exact same time for the 100 back
three times in a row. I was so frustrated. Low 1:05 was a good swim at the
time, but I knew I could swim so much faster. This meet was still really fun
and a total learning experience for a wide eyed 16 year old girl. I even
touched Michael Phelps butt! Yep!
Shawn didn’t know how to really bring me back from a rest
after a meet, so we continued my taper for TWO WEEKS to Sectionals (I hated
this so much). I felt over rested and worried about this as Sectionals was my
last chance to make Trials. I felt so stressed out with how much people were
pestering me about it – it would be a relief to either make it or not. I mean,
I was 16 after all; I could barely drive, needed my parents as an alarm clock
and called Mac n Cheese gourmet. This was just a trial run for what was sure to
come later in my swimming career. Prelims was a good swim, and I felt ok. The
time wasn’t what I knew I could do, but the swim was strong and I believe I
negative split it. Finals was awesome. My future collegiate team mate and I
swam next to each other and both went low 1:03s in the 100 – we made it! I was
so relieved. I completely skipped any 1:04 in the 100 back and went straight to
1:03. Completely happy and a little out of breath, I gave my family hugs before
getting into the pool and warming down. Good, I thought, on to the next goal.
I remember being excited but not overly so; I never really
got nervous or anxious because everything was just really new. Making Trials at
the age of 16 was something to definitely be proud of, but being from a town
that really didn’t make a big spectacle of non-mainstream sports meant there
wasn’t a lot of hype. Plus, I preferred it that way. Anything out of the
ordinary was awkward. I started training, really hard. I had been doing some
dryland and really enjoyed the extra (and different) training. I wanted this
summer to be an awesome summer for swimming, plus college recruiting was
starting and I had my eyes set on some of the Big D1 schools. I was so excited
to see where all this was going to go – and couldn’t wait for some awesome
swimming experiences for my Senior year of high school!
One Saturday morning I headed into practice as usual. After
a good two and a half hour work out, we did some dryland. To make it fun, we
played Frisbee. This was something we normally did as it was fun and thanks to
swimmer coordination we got a lot of running in! However, this time Shawn
invited parents to play to get more people involved. Enter one of the people
who had the biggest impacts on my life, Russ. Russ was a swim parent to two age
group kids who lived in his glory days. Your classic hockey parent, Russ
heckled his children’s competitors and offered instruction to anyone who would
listen, warranted or not. Now, my brother who is younger than me by a few years
was a lot like me; really passionate and fun but just not that great at
swimming in the early years. What can I say, we were late bloomers! He was a
talkative and energetic little kid who probably more got into swimming because
of his big sister rather than him actually wanting to swim (don’t worry, it
worked out). At a local swim meet, Russ had taken it upon himself to offer me
coaching lessons and even instructed me to watch slower men the same age as me
for ‘technique tweaks.’ This paired with the fact that he had been harassing my
brother left me a little pinched, and I politely told him that I was currently
very content with my swimming abilities and didn’t need any assistance – I was
doing just fine (AKA: leave me alone, ass). Russ had an air about him, even my parents picked up on it,
that he was still out to prove something to a much younger version of himself,
and he would do anything to get there.
So on this particular morning, he came along with his son
who was a bit younger than me. I remember being a tad upset at Shawn for
allowing this, as Russ was by far one of the most annoying parents on the swim
team (personal opinion). Shawn and Russ were just two peas in a pod though;
older men living in past glories who hated being talked back to by a young
girl. The game started and without fail, Russ immediately began pushing and
heckling other players. I mean, we are swimmers – not exactly a push and tackle
kind of group - and here he was body slamming people to get to the Frisbee.
Enough, dude. Stop hitting people. His response to me? Learn to be better. It’s
all about winning. Ok Russ, I want to ‘win’ dryland as much as you do, but
thanks for the lesson on how to be a grade A asshole. I will bring my pad and
pen next time for a note taking session. I told my coach he was being
inappropriate, and Shawn dismissed my claims. This part all gets a bit hazy,
but shortly after that I was running to catch the Frisbee when I saw Russ out
of the corner of my eye. Too large to actually run and catch the Frisbee, he
took to body slamming me. Only problem was I had my arm outstretched to catch
the Frisbee. His moving 250 pound body made direct contact with my arm and only
my arm, and my shoulder busted out of my joint. Not just dislocated as we would
learn much later; it broke out. I completely tore everything that held the
shoulder together on top of actually breaking off bone. I crumbled to the
ground holding my arm, unable to comprehend what just happened. The monster had
the nerve to touch me gently telling me to shake it off, to which I am sure my
eyes lit up on fire as I told him with my dragon voice to leave me alone.
Damage done. The next two months were a depressed blur leading
up to Trials, in which everything collapsed on to itself. I hurt all the time,
was unable to swim more than a few hundred yards and completely unable to
comprehend why something like this would happen to me. My mom took me to a
family friend who happens to be a rip roarin’ good Physical Therapist. He did
some movement tests on me, and while maintaining a good mood around me
instructed my mom that there was no way I could race or train. He knew I would
go anyways so he didn’t try to stop me. Everyone was afraid of upsetting me; I
went to practice without being asked to go, where I was met by a cold faced
coach who had already given up on me and threw me in the pool with a kickboard,
saying that there wasn’t even a point. Fellow swimmers stopped talking to me,
took over my lane and ridiculed me in the locker room. Shawn was embarrassed;
he didn’t want to talk to anyone about me and didn’t even want to go to Trails
with such a pathetic swimmer. My parents weren’t sure what to do; as it turns
out there isn’t a how-to manual for handling your daughters athletic demise at
the age of 16. BUMMER. We did the best we could, and there was never really a question
as to if I would go to Trials or not. I qualified, I earned it, and damnit I
was going.
Don’t get me wrong though, there were some awesome people
out there, too. Some of my best friends and their families were so supportive
and offered encouragement and good words when I needed them. The Bernfelds even
flew down and bought tickets to watch me (yeah, they rock). But to be honest, I
was pretty embarrassed for myself, too. No, not the kind of ‘bad swim but ill
brush it off’ embarrassed. I was a 16 year old who was always told and learned
that hard work and passion pay off; I gave everything my little teenage self
had to give to reach my goal. I couldn’t comprehend how someone could just take
that away from me at such a special time, how someone could strip me of
something I had earned. I couldn't understand how I was essentially no longer the person I used to be.
With Alicia and Skye at Trials.
Dinner the night before I swam with family.
My non-adult cheering squad. I have since cheered two of these kids on at their OWN Olympic Trials since this picture!
Family picture,
Picture with Alicia (and the backside of Rebecca).
Ill spare you all the details, but I went to Trials. Mainly
because we had already paid for everything, but also because I deserved to be
there. I had made that cut and damnit, I was going. My mom flew down with me
and in an attempt to keep me away from the pool and feeling blue tried to do
other stuff with me. We went to the beach with the Lorentzen’s (where I was
stung by a jellyfish a few days before I swam – go figure). My grandparents
flew out to watch too, and family from San Diego drove up to be there as well.
All of this was great, and my mom did a good job of trying to keep me away from
Shawn, who was doing the same thing to us. He disappeared for a few days
completely off the grid. Phone off, no note, not checked in to the hotel, and
then resurfaced for my swim for a few hours before going off the grid once
again. For most of the meet, I liked being alone. I wanted to pretend it didn’t
all happen, and being around my family reminded me that it had. I wanted to
have the experience I earned, and I mourned the loss of that meet and time. I
hung out in the swimmer area, ate a lot of the food, iced my shoulders and
talked with friends. I swam with Michael
Phelps every day, which seemed to help if ever so briefly with my mood. The day
of my swim was nothing special, and before I swam my coach pulled me into one
of the athlete tents to tell me that he hoped I understood that this was my
fault and that he hoped I would be forgiven for this. Confused, I marched out
and I still remember the feeling of walking out and feeling the ultimate mix of emotional exhaustion, embarrassment, excitement and finality. This was it. The swim was terrible, I clocked the slowest time of the meet and almost collapsed after getting out of the pool. A little towel girl came up with an official and actually asked if I needed medical attention or assistance. Shawn said some rude words to me before leaving
me alone, and I was done.
I was 16. That was the last time I ever swam a race.
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